Last weekend I attended a wedding. It was the first wedding I’ve been to and it was everything a wedding should be. Just like the movies. Now I am revisiting a complicated topic called “love.”
Personally I don’t think “love” is a word that can be said. I often hear my Western friends say “I love you, mom.” at the end of their phone conversations. But to me, and to the Chinese people in general, I rarely hear the word “love” used in such common ways as the Westerners do.
But this does not mean love is not there in the Westerners. It just means they express it differently than the people of the East.
I think it’s also a personal thing, like I still feel uncomfortable when a female kisses me on one side of my cheeks. People in China never do that when they greet. Even with close relatives.
When it comes to real love, I think it should go both ways. That is to say I love the person I’m in love with and he/she loves me back. This is similar to a two way street. On the other hand I don’t think love is a one way street where the other person does not love you back. I call this infatuation.
As for the institution of marriage, some people say that the homosexuals are breakdown the institution but I think the institution of marriage has been broken already when the divorce rate is now almost equals 50%. So my personal view is that because the institution of marriage has been broken due to the high divorces rate, I see no problem to allow homosexuals to get married.
If I were to marry right now I would not produce any kids. The reason is that I don’t see hope. I am not convinced that the Earth will still be livable in the next 50-100 years due to global warming and wars. I do not wish my children to live in an environment where my generation and the previous generations have destroyed. This is my personal belief at this moment.
Lastly, I like to point out the great imbalance in the dating world. It is a normalcy for guys to ask out girls. But I prefer when I am being asked out by a girl. This is because I think for a society to be equal, it has to be equal in the dating game and that since a woman has the same rights as a man I think it’s up to the woman to ask a guy out. I know I am going against the flow on this one here but I’m sticking to my beliefs.
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